Five Top Things I Would Do Differently


Sometimes it’s hard to look back at your life and think, “Wow!  I wish I would have handled that differently.”  I have had many friends and family who have decided to share with me this simple question….. “What were you thinking?!”

After a tough week of dealing with a few things that snuck up from prior mistakes, I decided to get real and write out what I think I would have done differently, and then see if I can ascertain how to move forward and implement that list as I continue this life’s journey. 

              1.  Listen to God More~

I’m a creative soul.  I like to create a plan and keep moving.  Sometimes that plan doesn’t work as well as intended.  Or sometimes I just throw up my plans and prayers before God and run ahead of Him on the path.  Not a good plan….ever.  God is our wise counsel….we need to seek Him first.    

              2.  Follow God and Then My Gut~ 

Too many times I’ve listened to the nay- sayers.  You know who I mean.  They’re the people around you who aren’t faith-filled…the doubters… the negative minds.  I’ve heard God speak through His Word, or through a prompting in my soul, and then someone tells me something to deter what I’m moving on.  My gut tells me to move…yet my ears tell me to listen to humans around me.  I’ve decided it’s wiser to listen to the Almighty God, than to listen to  Doubting Joe Schmoe next door.

            3.  Take More Time With People~  

I look back at my life and think I did some pretty good work.  I attained several of my life goals, I had 3 great kids, a wonderful husband named Farmer Dean, and I think I did my very best at my work.  But, I spent way too much time working.  It’s just how it is in ministry….more often than not, you are so busy doing the work, that you forget the people.  I think I need to craft more time to be with people, and not just work with people. 

             4.  Wouldn’t Be So Sure I Knew It All~

Yes…I said that.  The truth is that once you do something year after year, you can get to learn the ins and outs and know what does and doesn’t work.  So, you can get caught up in the fact that you believe the way that you do it is the only way to do it.  My father used to tell me that we never stop learning….until we’re dead.  I would spend less time trying to convince people that I knew what I was doing…and just go with it.  They will think what they want.

            5.  Find More Friends~

This past week, I had to call upon a friend of mine from one of my old worship teams.  I needed help in this crazy world of publishing my book.  I couldn’t seem to reach the right people, so I connected with him.  In a few minutes, he had posted on his facebook to his 1,000 friends that I needed help, and sent out over 500 emails to his network base requesting help.  Shortly after that, all kinds of advice poured in to help me.  I realized, I have spent too much time being a leader to others, and not enough time being a friend

What about you?  What do you wish you would have done differently?  I’d love to hear from you!


“ …I ask the God of our Master, Jesus Christ, the God of glory—to make you intelligent and discerning in knowing Him personally, your eyes focused and clear, so that you can see exactly what it is He is calling you to do, grasp the immensity of this glorious way of life He has for His followers, oh, the utter extravagance of His work in us who trust Him—endless energy, boundless strength!”…Eph. 1:17 Message

  1. Jennifer05-25-11

    I’ve learned not to take myself too seriously. It doesn’t always have to be agonizingly perfect. My husband reminds me of this, bless his heart, and helps keep things much more lighthearted and simple in our home.